I've had similar dilemmas. I *had* an email list that I started long ago to keep my friends and family up to date with firefighting stuff. Then I started this livejournal, intending to do the same thing. I wanted to write frequently and share the coolest things that were happening around me.
But I couldn't, because I did not control the viewership and LJ hadn't fully implemented the friends features yet. I certainly didn't want to cause privacy problems for my friends, especially in a forum that would live in web-archives forever . So, I did the exact same pronoun obfuscation thing for anyone that did not have a LJ or otherwise public-on-the-interweb life.
I also never post the sorts of details I'd like (IE: "TheGirl and I aren't getting enough kink..."). As much as I enjoy reading about my friend's sex lives, I don't think that they want to about mine. (I've been told this isn't actually true, which was neat.)
This brings up LJ-ego... Some people with livejournals get mad if you blog something you did with them but don't put in an LJ-USER. Others get mad because they think you are just namedropping. But pretty much everybody who blogs in any capacity has a secret desire to see their name in other people's blogs.
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on 2004-03-10 06:57 am (UTC)But I couldn't, because I did not control the viewership and LJ hadn't fully implemented the friends features yet. I certainly didn't want to cause privacy problems for my friends, especially in a forum that would live in web-archives forever . So, I did the exact same pronoun obfuscation thing for anyone that did not have a LJ or otherwise public-on-the-interweb life.
I also never post the sorts of details I'd like (IE: "TheGirl and I aren't getting enough kink..."). As much as I enjoy reading about my friend's sex lives, I don't think that they want to about mine. (I've been told this isn't actually true, which was neat.)
This brings up LJ-ego... Some people with livejournals get mad if you blog something you did with them but don't put in an LJ-USER. Others get mad because they think you are just namedropping. But pretty much everybody who blogs in any capacity has a secret desire to see their name in other people's blogs.