love, sex, & romance quiz
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Name: sev
Birthdate: 1973
Hair: long brown curly
Eyes: greenish
Height: 5'4-3/4"
Gender: studly femme
How many true relationships have you had? Um. Heck if I know what a "true relationship" is. "some". maybe "lots", depending on how you count 'em. Okay, if I count "sexual relationships with the expectation of some amount of ongoing-ness," fifteenish. If it's limited to things that were actually called relationships by the participants at the time...closer to ten.
Have you ever been in love? Yes.
What's your idea of a perfect date? I'm a fan of variety. Something with lots of opportunity for talk and touch.
Where's your favorite place to be kissed? I'm a big fan of lips, actually. I know that seems rather pedestrian of me, but I especially like a sweet kiss-break in the middle of an otherwise very-raunchy activity. It's a contrast thing.
How many sexual partners have you had? I dunno; I stopped counting when I hit a dozen, and that was...over a decade ago.
How many people have you kissed? I'm pretty fond of kissing. Quite a few, I think.
Do you like to make the first move? I like things to start with incremental little escalations on both sides, so we can both feel like we were seducing and being seduced.
Are you a snuggler? hell, yes.
Do you kiss on the first date? I generally kiss before the first date.
Where is the best place you've ever hooked up? define "hooked up"? define "best"? Burning Man, probably, but really in general my attitude towards the "where"s have a lot to do with the "who"s involved.
Do you consider yourself to be romantic? I'm not romantic in the sense of hearts-and-flowers but I do engage in the expression of focused attention.
Are you an angel or a devil in the sack? Embrace the power of "and"! Though I probably tend more towards the "devil" side. Maybe a lot towards the "devil" side.
Would you ever pay someone for sex? If I was very much wanting to try something I hadn't done before, that I had no qualified people in my life to learn from, I can see myself exchanging money for the opportunity...though at the moment I can't come up with an activity that I could pay someone to let me try that I couldn't find somebody who'd teach me out of friendship.
Would you ever let someone pay YOU for sex? If I wanted to have sex with somebody, money wouldn't be necessary. If I did not want to have sex with someone, money would not change that.
Do you keep your eyes open when you kiss? Not generally. I had a lover early on who did keep his eyes open, and if he saw me open my eyes he'd wave at me. I found that distracting.
What was your most embarrassing sexual moment? getting caught by fellow students when trying to communicate the concept of 'lubed condoms' to my first boyfriend, long after he and I had broken up.
Have your parents ever caught you in a compromising position? not literally "position," but when I was sixteen the person one parent was dating saw my boyfriend nude one night, and told the parent in question, and boy was I in trouble.
Have you ever performed a striptease? At least once, as it turns out, though while I remember being dressed before it, and undressed after it, and even remember the intention to strip, I seem to have blocked out memory of the part where I actually took anything off.
How about a lapdance? No.
Have you ever received a lapdance? No.
Do you like sexual contact? When I'm in the mood.
Are you straight, gay or bi? Bi.
Have you ever made out with a member of the opposite sex? Yes.
Are you a giver or a taker? While I wouldn't describe myself as 'passive' I generally end up on the receiving side, as I'm mostly a bottom.
What do you look for in a girlfriend/boyfriend? Someone who turns me on intellectually, emotionally, and physically. Someone who challenges me. Someone who listens to me and respects me, and who I can listen to and respect.
Do you think you've met the person you'll spend the rest of your life with? "a" person, yes.
Do you know who your bridesmaids and groomsmen would be? When my partner and I had our commitment ceremony the choice of attendants was obvious.
Have you ever regretted a hook-up? Yes.
Have you ever cheated on a significant other? Um...I think so? It would have been in high school, and we all communicated so poorly it was hard to tell whether the expectations of fidelity I was failing to live up to had ever been actually said to anybody.
Have you ever hooked-up with someone already in a relationship? Yes.
Have you ever cried over a member of the opposite sex? Yes.
Have you ever had your heart broken? Yes.
Have you ever had a pregnancy scare? Yes.
Would you date or marry someone if your parents didn't accept them? So far, my mom has been only disapproved of people who weren't good for me. (She's not been infallable; some of the people she approved of were not good for me, either.) So it would be difficult for me to ignore a sixteen-year-track-record of good advice; if my mother didn't accept somebody I'd have to think long and hard about why.
How about if your friends didn't accept them? I don't get serious about people who aren't first my friends. Certainly not all of my friends adore each other all of the time, but I wouldn't get serious about somebody that even my hardest-to-please friends wouldn't at least try to tolerate for my sake.
What's the worst relationship you ever had? For "relationship" as defined above, I really couldn't make that determination.
Have you ever done anything sexual while on the road? Yes.
Would you kiss someone if you didn't love them? Have done, would do again, when there is mutual interest in said kiss.
Who told you all about sex? In order of when I encountered the information: Harlequin romance novels, one of the books by the "Coffee, Tea, or Me?" authors (not the original memoirs of the two airline stewardesses, but one of the sequels), Parachutes & Kisses (by erica jong), and once I got into college, Usenet.
Are you always horny? No. I was during high school, and these days sometimes I'm not horny at all for frustratingly long periods time, and every once in awhile I find myself with just the right confluence of events that I can spend a month or so not being able to think about anything but sex...but mostly, just no.
Are you a flirt? On and off.
Are you a tease? I think somebody who wasn't part of my immediate social circle might perceive what I intend to be friendly behavior as teasing.
Do you prefer to chase or BE chased? I only like participating in the chase, either as the chaser or the chase-ee, if all involved parties are interested in the same thing (even if that thing is mostly just "enjoying the chase")
Do you prefer morning or evening hook-ups? I'm beginning to suspect that the author of this quiz means "sex" by "hook-ups"... I don't generally do sex in the morning unless I'm on vacation. At home I want to jump out of bed and get things done.
Have you ever pulled an all-nighter with a member of the opposite sex, and woke up in each others arms? Yes.
How old were you at the age of your first kiss? 14ish?
How old were you when you lost your virginity? 15ish
Do you sometimes wish you could change that? No.
Do you enjoy being in a relationship? I enjoy being in more than one!
Are you currently in one? I'm in a long-term committed primary relationship, and then some...thing(s). "one" is not accurate.
Has anyone ever fallen in love with you? yes
Have you ever said "I Love You" and not meant it? Yes, but not in a long time.
Are you "noisy" when you get heated? Yes. Um, noisy is an understatement.
What is your kissing pet peeve? Those silly porn kisses that are all tongue, no lips
Do you think you're a good kisser? To someone who likes my style of kisses, probably. Others might find my kisses too aggressive or too passive or too slobbery or too dry or...
firecat who got it from epi_lj who got it from okoshunName: sev
Birthdate: 1973
Hair: long brown curly
Eyes: greenish
Height: 5'4-3/4"
Gender: studly femme
How many true relationships have you had? Um. Heck if I know what a "true relationship" is. "some". maybe "lots", depending on how you count 'em. Okay, if I count "sexual relationships with the expectation of some amount of ongoing-ness," fifteenish. If it's limited to things that were actually called relationships by the participants at the time...closer to ten.
Have you ever been in love? Yes.
What's your idea of a perfect date? I'm a fan of variety. Something with lots of opportunity for talk and touch.
Where's your favorite place to be kissed? I'm a big fan of lips, actually. I know that seems rather pedestrian of me, but I especially like a sweet kiss-break in the middle of an otherwise very-raunchy activity. It's a contrast thing.
How many sexual partners have you had? I dunno; I stopped counting when I hit a dozen, and that was...over a decade ago.
How many people have you kissed? I'm pretty fond of kissing. Quite a few, I think.
Do you like to make the first move? I like things to start with incremental little escalations on both sides, so we can both feel like we were seducing and being seduced.
Are you a snuggler? hell, yes.
Do you kiss on the first date? I generally kiss before the first date.
Where is the best place you've ever hooked up? define "hooked up"? define "best"? Burning Man, probably, but really in general my attitude towards the "where"s have a lot to do with the "who"s involved.
Do you consider yourself to be romantic? I'm not romantic in the sense of hearts-and-flowers but I do engage in the expression of focused attention.
Are you an angel or a devil in the sack? Embrace the power of "and"! Though I probably tend more towards the "devil" side. Maybe a lot towards the "devil" side.
Would you ever pay someone for sex? If I was very much wanting to try something I hadn't done before, that I had no qualified people in my life to learn from, I can see myself exchanging money for the opportunity...though at the moment I can't come up with an activity that I could pay someone to let me try that I couldn't find somebody who'd teach me out of friendship.
Would you ever let someone pay YOU for sex? If I wanted to have sex with somebody, money wouldn't be necessary. If I did not want to have sex with someone, money would not change that.
Do you keep your eyes open when you kiss? Not generally. I had a lover early on who did keep his eyes open, and if he saw me open my eyes he'd wave at me. I found that distracting.
What was your most embarrassing sexual moment? getting caught by fellow students when trying to communicate the concept of 'lubed condoms' to my first boyfriend, long after he and I had broken up.
Have your parents ever caught you in a compromising position? not literally "position," but when I was sixteen the person one parent was dating saw my boyfriend nude one night, and told the parent in question, and boy was I in trouble.
Have you ever performed a striptease? At least once, as it turns out, though while I remember being dressed before it, and undressed after it, and even remember the intention to strip, I seem to have blocked out memory of the part where I actually took anything off.
How about a lapdance? No.
Have you ever received a lapdance? No.
Do you like sexual contact? When I'm in the mood.
Are you straight, gay or bi? Bi.
Have you ever made out with a member of the opposite sex? Yes.
Are you a giver or a taker? While I wouldn't describe myself as 'passive' I generally end up on the receiving side, as I'm mostly a bottom.
What do you look for in a girlfriend/boyfriend? Someone who turns me on intellectually, emotionally, and physically. Someone who challenges me. Someone who listens to me and respects me, and who I can listen to and respect.
Do you think you've met the person you'll spend the rest of your life with? "a" person, yes.
Do you know who your bridesmaids and groomsmen would be? When my partner and I had our commitment ceremony the choice of attendants was obvious.
Have you ever regretted a hook-up? Yes.
Have you ever cheated on a significant other? Um...I think so? It would have been in high school, and we all communicated so poorly it was hard to tell whether the expectations of fidelity I was failing to live up to had ever been actually said to anybody.
Have you ever hooked-up with someone already in a relationship? Yes.
Have you ever cried over a member of the opposite sex? Yes.
Have you ever had your heart broken? Yes.
Have you ever had a pregnancy scare? Yes.
Would you date or marry someone if your parents didn't accept them? So far, my mom has been only disapproved of people who weren't good for me. (She's not been infallable; some of the people she approved of were not good for me, either.) So it would be difficult for me to ignore a sixteen-year-track-record of good advice; if my mother didn't accept somebody I'd have to think long and hard about why.
How about if your friends didn't accept them? I don't get serious about people who aren't first my friends. Certainly not all of my friends adore each other all of the time, but I wouldn't get serious about somebody that even my hardest-to-please friends wouldn't at least try to tolerate for my sake.
What's the worst relationship you ever had? For "relationship" as defined above, I really couldn't make that determination.
Have you ever done anything sexual while on the road? Yes.
Would you kiss someone if you didn't love them? Have done, would do again, when there is mutual interest in said kiss.
Who told you all about sex? In order of when I encountered the information: Harlequin romance novels, one of the books by the "Coffee, Tea, or Me?" authors (not the original memoirs of the two airline stewardesses, but one of the sequels), Parachutes & Kisses (by erica jong), and once I got into college, Usenet.
Are you always horny? No. I was during high school, and these days sometimes I'm not horny at all for frustratingly long periods time, and every once in awhile I find myself with just the right confluence of events that I can spend a month or so not being able to think about anything but sex...but mostly, just no.
Are you a flirt? On and off.
Are you a tease? I think somebody who wasn't part of my immediate social circle might perceive what I intend to be friendly behavior as teasing.
Do you prefer to chase or BE chased? I only like participating in the chase, either as the chaser or the chase-ee, if all involved parties are interested in the same thing (even if that thing is mostly just "enjoying the chase")
Do you prefer morning or evening hook-ups? I'm beginning to suspect that the author of this quiz means "sex" by "hook-ups"... I don't generally do sex in the morning unless I'm on vacation. At home I want to jump out of bed and get things done.
Have you ever pulled an all-nighter with a member of the opposite sex, and woke up in each others arms? Yes.
How old were you at the age of your first kiss? 14ish?
How old were you when you lost your virginity? 15ish
Do you sometimes wish you could change that? No.
Do you enjoy being in a relationship? I enjoy being in more than one!
Are you currently in one? I'm in a long-term committed primary relationship, and then some...thing(s). "one" is not accurate.
Has anyone ever fallen in love with you? yes
Have you ever said "I Love You" and not meant it? Yes, but not in a long time.
Are you "noisy" when you get heated? Yes. Um, noisy is an understatement.
What is your kissing pet peeve? Those silly porn kisses that are all tongue, no lips
Do you think you're a good kisser? To someone who likes my style of kisses, probably. Others might find my kisses too aggressive or too passive or too slobbery or too dry or...