Um, when things that should be going right start going wrong consistently and I can't find any external influences. Or when I see myself acting in ways I *know* are counterproductive, such as waiting until the night before a paper is due to start writing it.
Just to add a voice to this sane argument, I have to say I agree. But this will not just be an aol-style "me too" post, oh no...
In my own experience, this includes: acting in a way I know will alienate Significant Other or Close Friend, even though I have no internal reason to act that way. Not working when I could work, have no reason not to work, and dammit I even *want* to work. Similar such things abound.
It's just really hard to work *against* part of yourself to break this. See, however nice it might be to identify the self-destructive part as alient, it isn't. It's part of you. You have to learn to compromise with it, figure out what it wants, and be a wholesome whole again.
I haven't managed this yet. If you do, let me know how.
I don't like to think that way. I periodically ask myself if I'm contented and whether there are any goals I want to be pursuing and whether there are any goals I am pursuing that I don't want to pursue any more. If I'm pursuing a goal and it's not going the way I think it should, then I try to figure out other ways of describing the goal and going about that project that I'm more likely to do.
Assuming I've understood your question right: I start making mistakes. Simple ones first, then I get myself into arguments I can't quite handle, then I start arguing myself into positions I know I don't really believe in.
Getting some sex quite often helps, though I that could be a guy thing. Otherwise being aware of the risks and doing lots of other things.
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Um, when things that should be going right start going wrong consistently and I can't find any external influences. Or when I see myself acting in ways I *know* are counterproductive, such as waiting until the night before a paper is due to start writing it.
What do you do, if you suspect you are?
If you figure it out, would you let me know?
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In my own experience, this includes: acting in a way I know will alienate Significant Other or Close Friend, even though I have no internal reason to act that way. Not working when I could work, have no reason not to work, and dammit I even *want* to work. Similar such things abound.
It's just really hard to work *against* part of yourself to break this. See, however nice it might be to identify the self-destructive part as alient, it isn't. It's part of you. You have to learn to compromise with it, figure out what it wants, and be a wholesome whole again.
I haven't managed this yet. If you do, let me know how.
Sam
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Getting some sex quite often helps, though I that could be a guy thing. Otherwise being aware of the risks and doing lots of other things.